Remember when your mom would schedule your playdates for you? She would organize it all, set up fun activities, and just like that...you had friends and your relationships flourished. We miss the days when all we had to do to hang out with our friends was show up at school and eat pb&j’s together at lunch. Unfortunately, adult friendships are not as easy, and since we graduated college, the reality of not living within a 2 mile radius of everyone we know has proved to be a little more difficult. The fear of drifting apart because of distance, busy schedules, and different life paths is real and something that we have been working on since we have become *gulp* adults.
Maintaining adult relationships means phone calls, texts, video chats, and coffee dates. As an adult, you have a ton of sh** to deal with so keeping up with your girlfriends can take a lot more effort and scheduling then it used to. But if we could give you any advice, it would be to make the time for your friendships. For us, friendships and relationships are everything (I mean, we did build an entire company around growing and maintaining relationships). So call your bff on your commute to work, send her a picture of something that reminded you of her, and plan the next time you are going to see each other!
People often underestimate the power of a gift. But when you are busy, far away, and struggling to maintain each of your relationships- a gift can make all of the difference. We used to be able to bring home soup to our friends when they were feeling sick, jump in their beds and snuggle them if they were having a tough day, or drink champagne together when they got good news. We are so lucky to have had a place and time in our lives when we could foster such special relationships, and now, we work hard to maintain them. When your friend is promoted, moves to a new place, has her heart broken, or is just having a hard week, the last thing she is expecting is a present in the mail. It is sometimes hard to be a good friend when we have so much going on in our own lives, but letting your friends know that you are there for them (even when you can’t be physically) is the best way to keep them close and in your life. A phone call can go a long way, but a BOXFOX can go even further.